Summer is in full swing now which means it’s officially wedding season! As the world celebrates its fathers this month, here at Riah Events we are focusing on the traditional role of the father of the bride! After months or years of assessing (and sometimes terrorising!) and bonding with his future son in law, it is finally time to plan the wedding, and daddy has a lot to do!
With weddings becoming more lavish, the role of the father has become increasingly relegated to the shadows, but don’t worry fathers because at Riah Events we are sparing some thought for you! Indeed, daddy might be the one to keep a cool head in the midst of all the excitement, but his role is pivotal as he may not only have to mediate between mother and daughter as pre-wedding tension rises, he’ll also need to cope with giving his daughter away. Here are some of Pop’s most important duties in the lead up to, and during the big day:
1. He pays for the wedding
There was a time when the wedding consisted of little more than the dress, the venue, the cake and catering, and it was pretty simple for the father of the bride to foot the entire wedding bill. But with the pomp and pageantry surrounding today’s weddings, he may not shoulder all of the costs, but he will be forking out a significant amount of money to contribute towards the wedding expenses.
2. He calms down the mother of the bride
It’s normal for mummy to become overwhelmed with the pre-wedding planning, and sometimes cross wires with her daughter! But this is where daddy comes in. He can assist mum by offering to write out some of the invitations or play mediator between mother and daughter!
3. He organises the wedding car
It’s up to dad to ensure the wedding limousine is ready to pick up his princess on the big day. Whether he arranges transport for the entire wedding party or just his daughter is totally a matter of choice!
4. He rides with his daughter to the church
Organising the cars also presents dad with a rare moment for him to spend some time alone with his daughter because he should ensure that he arranges a pick up for himself and the bride. Yes, you’ve guessed! Another traditional role is for him to ride to the church with the bride.
5. He walks his daughter down the aisle
This will be the first time dad will take centre stage – with his daughter of course! For most fathers this is an emotional moment, as it signifies his giving away of the bride into the care of another man.
6. He gives a heart-warming speech
The father’s speech is important and one that may have taken hours of rehearsal to nail. Although on the actual day, it may only last a few minutes, the father’s speech should provoke the emotions of the guests, and most importantly, the newly wedded couple! It will be touching mix of childhood memories, jovial threats towards his new son in law, and well wishes to the bride and groom.
7. He dances with his daughter
Aside from walking the bride down the aisle, the last dance between father and daughter is another significant moment as half way through the dance, he’ll hand his daughter away to her husband for the couple’s first dance.
8. He mingles with the guests
Yes! Daddy should also greet the wedding guest during the reception and thank them for their presence (and presents
9. He is the last to leave
What would we do without our fathers eh? After such a busy and emotional day, dad should be the last to leave! Whilst the bride and groom are whisked off to their hotel room or the airport, it’ll be up to the bride’s father to ensure all the vendors have been paid, and all is in tact with the reception venue.
And after all that, daddy’s job is still not over. Our guess is that he’ll spend the next few years looking forward to the grandchildren! We do hope you have enjoyed reading the nine traditional roles for the father of the bride, but that’s not all Riah Events can help you with. If you would like to chat to us about how we can plan or manage your event, contact us today by filling our short Contact form.